Author: Allen Reasons

A Letter to My Grandchildren, No. 3: Unanswered Prayers

Dear James, Darcy, and Ellie,

What a week! Darcy and Ellie, you landed in our world with quite a flair! Darcy, you beat Ellie here by only seconds; I guess you were getting her back for sprawling out and taking up most of the space for the last several months! Even though you both are in NICU for a few more days to clear up some early-arrival issues, you are leaping hurdles like seasoned champions.

From the day I heard that your Momma had “two babies in her belly” (description by big brother James), I have prayed every day without fail for the obvious: perfect health for you and your Momma. That prayer continues.

But I added another prayer to that plea: “God, please allow Darcy and Ellie to go home with Momma when she is discharged.” First, I wanted that because it would signify your doctor’s confidence that you were doing well. After all, as identical twins you needed to be delivered several weeks early. Second, I wanted it for your Momma, our little girl. I did not want her and your Dadda to experience the anguish of leaving the hospital without you girls in their arms.

For 35-week-old babies, your health is extremely good. You are conquering every problem. Thank you, God, for answering the first part of my prayer! And then, a couple of nights ago, your Momma was discharged from the hospital, another answer to my prayer, because it meant that she was recovering well from the surgery of your birth.

BUT, the unanswered prayer casts a disappointing shadow: you are not home yet; the NICU remains your temporary abode.

This part of my prayer is by no means the first prayer of mine to go unanswered, nor will it be my last. As I hold you so gently in the NICU and James prays so innocently for you at meals and bedtime, it saddens me to know that you three will also petition God for requests that will not be answered. When that happens, remember these truths:

  1. An unanswered prayer places you in good company. It’s happened to all of us. Most significantly, it happened to God’s only Son. Jesus prayed the night before He died: “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from Me. Yet not as I will, but as You will” (Matthew 26:39b, New International Version). He died the next day.
  2. The silence of God is not always His refusal to answer. God loves silence, and He has spoken the loudest to me in His silence. When I held you for the first time, you did not say a word while I whispered to you. The loudest sound came from the tears rolling down my cheeks. Silence is deafening.
  3. One prayer may mutually exclude another prayer. God answered my prayer for your good health by keeping you in the NICU for a while longer. Farmers praying for rain to grow their crops directly contradict their child’s prayer for a sunny day to play outside. Within the confines of earth’s boundaries, not all prayers can physically be answered as prayed.
  4. Your will is not always God’s will. The reason we pray in Jesus’s name is to request that Jesus sign off with His approval on our prayer. We are praying that Jesus agrees with our prayer and even intercedes on our behalf. (By the way, “amen” does not mean that the prayer is over, and we can open our eyes. “Amen” means something like “let it be so.” It is a statement of affirmation, that we truly believe in our hearts that this prayer is true.) When “amen” follows “in Jesus’s name,” well, that’s a bold and brave statement! We are praying in faith that we believe the truth of our prayer, even to the point that Jesus would sign His name on it.
  5. The prayer itself may be more important than God’s response. God wants to hear your hopes and desires, always. Like any parent, He wants to stay connected closely to you.  He intently listens to our words to hear the longing of our hearts.
  6. God may answer your prayer in a different time zone. The eternal nature of God removes Him from the boundaries of time. His perspective may mean that an answer is better later.
  7. There is one prayer that God always answers affirmatively. If you pray for God’s forgiveness and His becoming your Lord through the saving grace of Jesus, He will never say no.

I will continue to pray for the day you get to leave the NICU and go home in the arms of Momma and Dadda and to your waiting brother who is ready to live life with you. Then, as now, I will never stop praying for you and for the future that will be your world.

I love you,
Grandad
September 24, 2017

A Letter to My Grandchildren, No. 2: Welcome to the World!

Dear James, Darcy, and Ellie,

Welcome to the world, Darcy and Ellie!  Today, September 18, 2017, you took the miraculous and brave journey to leave the protection of Momma’s womb and breathe the air of earth.  It is a gorgeous day in Huntington today, 64° with blue skies when you were born; and you just made the world even more beautiful!  We have anticipated your arrival with great joy, just as we did your entrance, James, four years ago!

But if I am completely honest with you, my precious grandchildren, I am so concerned about the world in which you are growing.  Problems in the world are nothing new.  From the moment God’s first creatures surreptitiously stole the fruit, the world has faced the consequences of sin.  Even the pain that your Momma endured by carrying each of you and then delivering you into the world was a direct result of the Garden’s sin (Genesis 3:16).  However, your Momma would have gone through ANYTHING to bring you here!

Here’s some of what is going on in the world right now, my three young loves.  Computers and the internet have changed everything.  People began to use them regularly when your Momma and Dadda were in elementary school.  They had to learn how to use them quickly.  What a big adjustment that was!

Thanks to that, the world is in a constant state of changing, and it’s changing so fast that I’m not sure we have kept up with it morally or spiritually—at least, not very well.  Before we have adapted to one paradigm shift, it all changes again.  Your Momma uses computers brilliantly to write articles that people read all over the world.  She is an excellent writer, earning awards for her writing; and I can’t wait for you to realize that one day!  Your Dadda also is a genius, but he prefers to use computers for drawing engineering designs.  It’s so complicated, that I don’t even understand it; but he is a vice-president of his company, and I can’t wait for you to understand what that means one day!  For fun, your Dadda and Uncle Preston play video games with people from all over the world with their computers!  I can’t imagine what the computing world will be able to do as you grow up.  And your brother James continually amazes us with his bright mind, how quick he is to learn and remember anything we teach him.  It will be fun to watch him pass his knowledge on to you two girls!

Another big part of the world today is how small it has become.  Not physically, but relationally.  When I was growing up, people read about events happening around the world in newspapers.  The funny thing is that the news might appear several days following the actual events.  Today, people can watch news twenty-four hours a day, and it is in real time.  We know instantly what is occurring on the other side of this planet you just entered.  For those of us who can remember our first black-and-white television, topped off with rabbit ears wrapped in tin foil, this instant news in full living color is amazing in itself!  But sadly, the news is not always good.  Actually, it seems something is newsworthy only if it is bad news.

Today, the news is filled with difficulties around the globe.  In Huntington, where all three of you were born, the news is all about the problems created by people using things — meant for good — in a bad way.  For example, sometimes they use drugs in a bad way.  They become addicted to drugs, and then they do bad things to get money to buy more drugs.  Or they overeat the wrong foods and instead of nourishing their bodies, they become slaves to obesity and bad health.  I pray that solutions are figured out before you get much older.

In the United States, we are reeling from two recent, massive hurricanes that have devastated parts of our country.  You have relatives who are still recovering from their destruction in south Texas from Hurricane Harvey.  We also are having ongoing battles from a sin that our country committed a long time ago. Kids, I’m sorry to tell you that we had slaves in our country, where one group of people mistreated another group of people as less valuable than themselves.  I remember when I was a boy that there were curfews in my town because the struggle had become very violent.  You will read about the Civil War in history class.  Today, about 150 years later, we still have a lot of disagreements; now our turmoil is over whether statues of the Confederacy should remain in place.  Again, I pray that such problems are resolved before you get much older; and even more than that, I pray that you grow to live in a world where people treat each other with dignity and respect.

There are a lot of children your age all over the world who are hungry.  I pray you will always have plenty of food as you grow up.  When you cry as a baby because it’s time to eat, you will be comforted.  Not all children are so blessed.  Your Momma and Dadda went to Nicaragua — one of the poorest countries in the world — many times.  They went to show God’s love to some hungry children in an orphanage there.  Your Momma and Dadda love you with everything they have, and I pray that as you get older, the world has figured out how to share resources so that no one is hungry.

The world is also in constant talk of war.  A big change in the world occurred on September 11, 2001.  You will read about it in history class in school as well.  Your parents were in school when it happened, so be sure to ask them what it was like.  The United States was attacked and thousands died.  It started a different kind of war, and even a different kind of world.  Fighting is happening in many parts of the world today, and threats of nuclear war with a country called North Korea is all over the 24-hour news.  I pray that you grow up in a world where people love each other, instead of fight each other.

I wanted to tell you about the world today.  It may sound like it’s all bad, but not really.  Your Momma and Dadda’s generation have learned to use computers in a good way, especially by bringing people together for good causes.  Many people your Momma and Dadda’s age are helping to teach our country and the world that we must treat each other with love and respect, not hate and violence.  I pray that they can make a change, not only in our country, but all over the world!

With all that is happening in the world during your infancy, your being born is one of the greatest signs that God is still in charge.  The greatest moment in the history of the world occurred when a Baby was born.  I believe that God created each of you with a purpose to continue what that Baby started 2,000 years ago.  No one knows yet what the three of you may grow up to become, but I believe that within each you is the possibility to heal the sins of people who lived before you and to bring the world together in love.  You, James, Darcy, and Ellie, are the hope of God Himself.  Within you is the breath of God Himself.  Welcome to His world, and to the world that You may change to look more like Him.  You three give me hope.

I love you,
Grandad
September 18, 2017

A Letter to My Grandchildren, No. 1: Your Family Roots

Dear James, Darcy, and Ellie,

Next week, Darcy and Ellie, your family gets to meet you for the very first time!  Do you know how excited we are for that day to arrive?  There are simply no words for it!  James, our firstborn grandson, we have jokingly referred to September 18 as the #twinvasion; and I am sure that moniker will mean more and more to you in the years ahead!  How ecstatic we all are for these little girls, identical twins, to arrive!  Our family tree has two new little branches, and how grateful we are to God for His blessing us with your lives!

For months now, Darcy and Ellie, you have lived in isolation, closely together.  We have no idea what those months of development, side-by-side, have formed within your hearts, bodies, and souls.  You have shared raised eyebrows when Momma has eaten food that might have been a little too spicy.  You have made your presence known with a right hook or foot jab whenever you felt too crowded by one another.  You also shared the warmth when your brother James touched Momma’s belly or gave you a kiss through her shirt.  I don’t expect you to remember any of that, but I do know that it is all part of your preparation to meet this world.  James, you have been such a big boy to help Momma do things around the house.  When you bend over to pick up something she can’t reach or when you climb up on the bed to “talk car” while she rests, you were helping Momma immeasurably as she carries your growing sisters.  In your four years, you have already embraced what it means to share Momma with your sisters. It’s all about family.

And that is what I want to tell you in this first letter to you, my three grandchildren: It’s all about family.  Darcy and Ellie, you have a jump start on most babies.  You already know each other before you ever inhale your first breath.  I can’t wait to watch you grow into this world with a sister who resembles you at your very core.  Beyond each other, the first two people whom you meet in this world are the two who care and love you the most. They are Momma and Dadda.

As God molds your family together, you are receiving one of the greatest blessings of all.  God decided that you three would be born to two parents who will take care of you beyond all other cares in the world.  Your parents are deeply devoted to our Lord. Momma and Dadda are strong believers in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.  They will share that with you as you grow into your understanding.  James, Darcy, and Ellie, you three are blessed by God to be born with the parents that you have; I hope you remember that always.  Please know that we are praying for you to come to know Jesus and have since the day we learned you were coming into the world.

You also have a wider family who loves you with all our hearts. You have grandparents who love and adore you.  That love is even creatively weaved into the fabric of your names, as you three share the names of your four grandparents. That is a connected blessing that we cherish.  You have cousins and aunts and uncles and great grandparents.  Family makes up the people who will always have your back, who will always guard your back, who will always take you back, and who will always nudge your back so you can be the best that we know you can be. Together, along with generations of your family who lived earlier, we are bonded together.  It’s all about family.

Your family tree goes very deeply into the ground of this world, and its branches spread out widely.  We will embrace you when you need strength, shade you when you need protection, and span out in all directions when you need to fulfill your dreams.  It’s all about family.

James, Darcy, and Ellie, never forget, even when some of us, your family roots, are buried beneath the soil, we will still be nurturing and supporting your branches.  When you can no longer see us, remember that our spirit is still part of you and our love will always be within you.  It always has been, and always will be, all about family.

I love you,
Grandad
September 14, 2017

and now Irma…

I appreciate so much your comments and your sharing of the Hurricane Harvey blog. I was especially moved by comments from people in south Texas, who lost so much and are yet unsure of their future.

I had planned to write a follow-up to that blog regarding the role of faith in the inevitable months and years that lie ahead for residents of the Gulf coast area of Texas and Louisiana.  But, here comes Irma. In a few days, there will be many more people in crisis…people whom we must not forget.

Hurricane Irma provides a harsh backdrop for faith.  What is faith’s place in the storm, whether a storm such as Harvey, Irma, or Jose?  Or how does faith matter in storms of life, such as crises of health or finance or relational conflict?  What ought people of faith do while staring into the long face of calamity, especially as that storm goes on for days, weeks, months, and even years? When the news cycle moves on, but the pain remains, remember this word: ὑπομονὴ.

I’ll spare you the Greek going forward; but in English, the word sounds like “hupomonay.” If you asked congregants in the five churches that I pastored over the years, “What is Allen’s favorite word in the New Testament?” I would hope that most of them would be able to tell you “hupomonay.” (For some examples, see Matthew 24:13; Romans 5:3; Hebrews 10:36; 1 Thessalonians 1:3.)

When I read the Scriptures, I can’t find the parts where people’s lives were made comfortable because they were believers. If anything, their journeys were more calamitous because they were believers. Jesus said, “I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33, New International Version).

God has promised so much, and He ALWAYS comes through; but He did not promise that we would have trouble-free journeys. He did not promise that Harvey would miss Houston or that Irma would spin out harmlessly into the Atlantic. He did not promise that disease would pass over our families. What did He promise?  We will have trouble.

But God refuses to leave us drowning in our trouble. God promises that in faith, we will find peace in the midst of it all.

As best I understand Him, peace comes to those who embrace hupomonay in our faith. Peace comes to those who persevere faithfully through our trouble. For those who are looking personally at Harvey’s destruction, hupomonay. For those who are leaving their homes, anxious about what Irma will or won’t spare, hupomonay. For those whose deteriorating physical condition has altered the course of their plans, hupomonay. For those whose lives have been forever changed in one moment, in one phone call, in one bit of news, hupomonay. For those who currently stand unaffected on dry land, pray for others with hupomonay.

Perseverance. We will face adversity; that is God’s promise. What matters is what we do in response to it. I suggest that peace comes to those who respond with hupomonay.

Praying from Dry Land

O God, I offer this prayer as one who is not staring at water in my living room.  I live over 1,000 miles away.  But there are many of us, who are watching the scenes via computer and television, totally helpless in the moment. We want to do something, but what? We promise to pray, but how?  My family and I moved from Houston seventeen years ago, after pastoring a church in what is now a very damaged neighborhood. We hear from and talk to friends who have lost everything physically, save their lives.  Some of our family is frantically stacking sandbags in attempt to steer water away from their homes, others covering furniture with tarp to keep from ruin due to roof leaks.  Here we are, God, along with millions more throughout the country and world, in search of what our prayer should be as we stand on dry land.

We know the prayers of our friends and family in Houston, Beaumont, and surrounding areas. Their prayers come from the front lines. They are praying for receding waters. They are praying for sunshine. They are praying for restful sleep. They are praying for security.  They are praying for hope. They are praying that the rest of us will do the right thing. In many cases, they pray and nothing comes out of their mouths.

As one who cannot possibly understand the present trauma of life in southeast Texas and southern Louisiana, I offer this prayer.

In my ignorance, God, provide wisdom to know what I must do as Your child and their brother and sister. I pray that Your wisdom will extend to every individual who must make decisions that will affect hundreds, if not thousands, of others. Wisdom that is needed when emergency water releases from reservoirs may help some and inevitably hurt others. Wisdom that is needed when deciding that it is time to steer boats to a different neighborhood, satisfied that they have searched enough in the homes where they are.  Wisdom that is needed in the classroom, as teachers try to help children make sense of any of this. God, give all of us Your wisdom.

In my comfort, God, provide compassion for those who are comfortless. We watch in horror as our neighbors to the south wonder how they can feel one more hurt; turn our horror into compassion, God.  Compassion that helps the child find the family cat before climbing aboard the rescue boat. Compassion for the parent who is trying to “keep it together” when it all looks to be falling apart. Compassion for the first responder whose own house is under water.  Compassion for the pastor who tries to compose a sermon for congregants when the pastor needs it more personally than anyone.  God, give us all compassion.

In my faithlessness, God, provide faith for myself and others. We all know what the Bible says about storms and rainbows, but it almost feels like that story is proving futile right now.  Fill us with a child’s faith. Faith that gives belief to the lifelong believer who feels tested beyond endurance. Faith that gives belief to the unbelieving rescuer, who sees something unnatural in the eyes of the rescued people in the boat. Faith to all who have nothing else on which to hold.

We will continue to pray, God, because we need Someone to hear us and make sense of our stutterings. We will pray as we write relief checks.  We will pray as we go to help in the months and years ahead. We will pray because they find hope in our prayers.  We will pray … perhaps because we simply need someone to talk to.  Amen.

Why Is Everyone So Excited To See What They Can’t Look At?

If you haven’t heard something about the upcoming solar eclipse, you must have been living on the dark side of the moon, or in this case, is it the bright side of the moon…I’m confused? Most of us are prepared that this Monday, August 21, 2017, the sky over the United States will turn dark. The moon is going to pass between the earth and the sun. Depending on where you are, the phenomenon will last about two minutes or so. It’s not the first time this has happened, as people have recorded instances for thousands of years. And it’s not the last time, Lord willing, that it will occur, as scientists calculate that another solar eclipse will rotate over the U.S. in 2024. (See http://www.nasa.gov for detailed information.)

It is a strange, but momentous, event, the kind of thing that sticks with us. I remember the one in 1970 the best. Perhaps because we all put cardboard boxes over our heads, a method of forming some kind of projection. (I had not idea what I was doing!) I followed the instructions, but all I could think about was how foolish we must all look to the aliens who were orchestrating the eclipse. Of course, the 1970 eclipse was immortalized forever, thanks to Carly Simon’s hit, “You’re So Vain.”

The whole thing is rather ironic…people are so excited to see what they can’t look at. That, in fact, is the focus of much of the eclipse conversation: DO NOT LOOK AT IT! Therein lies the mystery of the eclipse. The earth, moon, and sun only align over our spot on earth once in a blue moon. (I have no idea what that idiom means either, but that’s for another day.) When the earth, moon, and sun all come together, we cannot even look at it.

History reveals that Ancient China interpreted the eclipse with fear, for they thought that a dragon had eaten the sun.  Later, about 500 years before Christ, the Babylonian astronomers developed skills to predict future eclipses. By the time Christ walked on earth, eclipses were more fascinating because people could anticipate them than because they bore some angry message from the gods.

Even today, with our massive telescopes and our eclipse-certified glasses, the emphasis of the eclipse remains: we cannot look at it without irreparable damage to our eyesight. It is God’s moment of mystery.  Just as Scripture warns against looking directly at God (Exodus 33:20; John 1:18), the eclipse will remain for me a supernatural moment, captured only in the unlimited eyes of the Creator.

When the eclipse occurs, I will not try to see anything through the lenses of special glasses. Nor will I be wearing a cardboard box over my head.  I will not drive hundreds of miles as others will, just to be more centrally located in the eclipse’s path. Nor will I watch television’s live coverage of the event. Instead, I will be simply sitting in the darkness that God has created, soaking in His mystery. We humans think we have it all figured out, with explanations and algorithms for everything. Not this time. At least, not for these two minutes.  This is God’s moment. We need more divine mystery in our lives.

I’m Tired of My Friends Dying

I am one of the fortunate. Most of my family and friends have followed the unofficial order of dying. The sequence is not absolute, but it’s generally reliable.

Through the first several decades of my life, my grandparents died. One of my first childhood memories was the death of my dad’s father. I remember holding my mother’s white-gloved hand, as I walked reluctantly into the mystery of the hushed viewing room. My mother said quietly to herself, not realizing that the room’s silence allowed the whisper to pierce my ears: “I can’t do this.” I always assumed she was referring to exposing me to the pain of death. I would miss my grandfather, the smell of his unlit pipes that he never smoked when we were around, and his life-on-the-road stories from his truck-driving career. Even though sorrow accompanied his passing, that is the order of death: grandparents die before grandchildren.

When Laurie and I became parents of our own children, our parents started dying. Through tear-blurred vision, I’ve watched both of my parents’ caskets sink into the grave. With every year that passes, I realize how much they shaped my own life. Father’s Day and Mother’s Day conjure uninvited sorrow as I reminisce about my childhood with them, perhaps missing them even more as their dying gets further and further behind me. I lament the fact that they never got to meet our wonderful son-in-law and daughter-in-law, or their great-grandson whose name is shared by my father and me. I miss my parents, but again, that’s the order of death. Parents die before their children.

This stream of thought falls apart when the order is displaced. On the positive side, some young children still enjoy the living presence of their great, and even great-great, grandparents. We call that “good genes.” I knew my great-grandmother during my early years on my father’s side of the family tree. On the negative side, one of my grandfathers, my mother’s dad, died when she was a very young child. Good genes can be so random.

The most cruel upheaval of the order of dying seems to be when some parents face the unfathomable pain of the death of a child. As a pastor for 35 years, I officiated the funerals of many children: infants who never took their first breaths, youngsters who died in accidents, children who made wrong decisions along the way…all undeserving to die so young. I’m thankful that I learned early in my ministry that there are no quick answers to repair the pain of a grieving parent’s broken heart. I found that long-suffering prayer and presence were two of the most helpful gifts I could offer a parent who was wounded by the broken order of death.

The regular order often collapses; and when it does, the hurt goes deep. But we can generally expect people to die in sequence. I’m currently in the stage of life when my friends are dying, and I’m getting real tired of it.

For those in my stage of living, attending a funeral often stirs waves of thoughts of our own mortality. It forces us to personalize the truths of our faith…such as the Psalm of David: “The life of mortals is like grass, they flourish like a flower of the field; the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more” Psalm 103:15-16, New International Version). We face head-on the reality that the death of a friend closes one more chapter in our own lives, moving us closer to our own epilogue.

What do we do? Those of us who are tired of our friends dying, what do we do about it? For starters, nothing. There is not one single thing we can do about the order of dying. The last part of our journeys rests solely in the hands of the Almighty. We would do well to surrender our concerns, fears, and uncertainties about that to Him.

But that’s what we can do…surrender our fears to the Author of life. His ironic blessing of freedom through surrender removes the feared, clanging chains of our mortality. His liberation comes with great opportunity. First, we are set free to celebrate our friends’ lives. When we are freed from our own fears of following our friends through the unknown, we are capable of celebrating the meeting of our two lives, both here on earth and in eternity.

A second prominent blessing comes when we give our trust to the Author of our lives: we uncover a motivation to continue the best of our friend’s life. Once the passing of our friend is no longer about our own self-centered fears, we can focus on the qualities of that person that formed our friendship…why were we friends? Which qualities of our friendship can I continue forward in my life to make the world around me better? What aspects of my child, my spouse, or my parent can merge with my story to create an even better book of my life?

I will always tire of my friends and family dying, as will you. Death will never be something that happens without some degree of loss and pain. It was painful when I was a pastor, and it is especially painful now. But perhaps these thoughts will give us something to do with that coffin or picture, staring at us from the front of the sanctuary.

The Day I Met Muhammad Ali

A great man passed away in June 2005. His name was Jim Tweel.

Jim was the owner and operator of Jim’s Steak and Spaghetti House for over 6 decades. The restaurant is an institution in Huntington, West Virginia, still family-owned and as popular as ever to this day. It’s the kind of place that whether you are visiting Huntington or have lived here all your life, you go to Jim’s.

Known for its good food, Jim’s is also famous as a place of hospitality, a gathering where people are friends. One of Jim’s characteristic expressions was giving away silver dollars. If you came to the restaurant on your birthday, anniversary, or for whatever reason he wanted to celebrate, Jim would often greet you with a silver dollar. He carried them in his pocket like calling cards. To receive a silver dollar from Jim was a big deal. You kept it.

When Jim died, Huntington and beyond lost a friend; the church I pastored lost a faithful member. Many people from all walks of life gathered in the sanctuary of the church on June 13th for Jim’s funeral.

One of Jim’s friends was Muhammad Ali. Not in good health himself, Mr. Ali made the arduous journey to honor Jim’s life. The one known as “The Greatest” came to pay tribute to another man who truly was great in all of our eyes.

You would think that Muhammad Ali’s larger-than-life presence would distract from the day’s focus, to celebrate Jim Tweel’s life. Not so. After waiting inconspicuously in a back room, the great boxer entered the sanctuary quietly and unannounced. He sat reverently on the second row, with some others. He came as a friend to offer his support and respect to Jim’s family.

Jim’s family offered a poignant moment in the service, an experience those who had gathered would long remember. Everyone received a silver dollar. Provided generously by Jim’s family, these coins represented the celebration of Jim’s life, just as he had celebrated so many lives over the years. At the designated time in my sermon, ushers began to pass offering plates, filled with silver dollars. I invited every worshiper (and there were hundreds) to take a silver dollar out of one of the plates.

From my vantage point on the platform, the person whom I could see most clearly was Muhammad Ali. I watched as the plate was passed in front of him. He reached for a silver dollar.

His body exposed the signs of his years of battling Parkinson’s disease. I recognized his familiar difficulty with picking up one of the coins, because my own father suffered from Parkinson’s.

Mr. Ali struggled to grasp a coin, but he was determined to get that coin in his trembling fingers. It was his tribute to the passing of a great man. I watched as he worked for the coin. At one point, I remember thinking that I should go help him. Those sitting around him seemed to be thinking the same thing. But Mr. Ali clearly was going to do this himself.

After a great deal of effort on his part, he succeeded in capturing one of the coins in his hand. He held it to his face, looked at it, as though he were cherishing one of his championship belts. He seemed to smile slightly.

I saw the face of determined perseverance that day. I saw why he was known as “The Greatest.” I saw why he had influenced the lives of so many. I saw what determination looked like, not for his own attention, but for a quiet, respectful, humble honor of another great man.

When I spoke with him after the service, I simply said, “Thank you.” Thank you, partly for making the long trip. Thank you, partly for the difference that he was making in my family’s life through drawing attention to Parkinson’s research.

Mostly, I thanked him because he reminded me what perseverance looked like that day.

“Our response to troubles ought to be determined perseverance. If we persevere without giving up, we find our true, God-given character. Within that character lies our hope” (adapted from Romans 5:3-4).

Spiritual and Physical Health: Why should I take care of my earthly body if it doesn’t go with me to heaven?

 

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?” (1 Corinthians 6:19a, New International Version)

“How are you?” has become more than a rhetorical greeting in our home. A rare motor neuron disease, coupled with chronic blood clot complications, mandates that we plan our days around medical appointments and the side effects of medication. “How are you?” is a real question. By God’s blessing, my wife Laurie became a health coach a year and a half ago. We have lost 80 pounds each; and as a health coach, Laurie asks “How are you?” of her clients numerous times a day. Almost 1,000 people have become part of her team. Helping people get healthy is her passion.

The contrast of my disabling illness and Laurie’s health coaching leads to a great deal of health talk around our home. As you might expect, our conversation often converges at the intersection of our spiritual and physical journeys: how are soul and body related in the pursuit of well-being?

Over decades of pastoring, I learned that many people ponder this relationship. If the ultimate hope of faith is our souls’ eternity in heaven, how much do our physical bodies really matter?

Paul’s words to the Corinthians above are a good place to start as we seek answers. The Holy Spirit has established residency inside of us. How we care for our physical well-being somehow reflects the value that we place on the Spirit’s presence within us.

The imagery is reminiscent of taking care of the church house. It is only a building; but because holy moments occur inside the walls, we should treat the church building with great attentiveness. The same is true for our bodies.

But when we think of our bodies as “temples,” we ought not to picture hallways, classrooms, offices, or fellowship halls. The word that Paul uses here is more specific than that.

Paul writes that our bodies are the holy place. In Moses’ tabernacle, the holy place was where the priests prepared for worshipful rituals, including the Holy of Holies where only the High Priest visited with God on the Day of Atonement.

The physical body may not last forever; but during its time, it is the home of God.

This aging, aching body is holy, because God is within it. Take care of His house.

Filling the Empty Tomb with Stuff

For the first time in over three decades, I find myself not preparing an Easter message during Holy Week. In looking back, I remember the Easter sermon as a multi-layered challenge.

Every church that I pastored had its peculiar Easter customs, a list of holy rituals that dictated the presence, or lack thereof, of Easter. Specific songs were sung, whether they were seasonally or theologically correct. Flowers adorned the chancel, usually given in honor or memory of the saints. That meant that jockeying for position to take home the “best-looking lily” started with the most strategic choice of pew. The annual reenactment of the ladies’ trip to the tomb, a.k.a, Easter sunrise service, meant that congregants were more inclined than usual to take a nap during worship. Moving through all these extra-curricular traditions made Easter sermons more complicated.

The assortment of hearers was also more convoluted than the other fifty-one Sundays. One group of people, “Chreasters,” included those I hadn’t seen since Christmas (and wouldn’t see again until next Christmas). I was thrilled that they were in worship on Easter, but the spiritual impact is diminished when all one knows about the story is that Jesus was born and that Jesus resurrected. There are some important parts in the middle of that story!

Another group of people were the family-attendees. These people appeared with their family members, seemingly to avoid the ire of the matriarch or patriarch of the clan. They were easy to spot in a crowd. I won’t give away all their clues, but suffice it to say that they kept a pretty close eye on their watches!

The protectors of the institution also added to the layers of activity.  They loved to bring out the “Easter chairs,” but then they were disappointed when they remembered that a full house rarely meant full collection plates.

Last, but certainly not least, there was the group of faithful church-goers. They were in worship every Sunday. To them, Easter was a celebration of all they believed, lived, and knew to be true. I had to look especially hard for these loyal ones on Easter Sunday, because their pews had been stolen by “strangers” on this special day.

In spite of these (now-humorous) Easter distractions, I look back and realize they are all human attempts to do something meaningful with the holiest of days.

Easter worship is the creation’s attempt to celebrate the Creator’s greatest moment.

Paul reminds us: “and if Christ has not been raised, your faith is worthless; you are still in your sins” (1 Corinthians 15:17, New American Standard Bible).

When the sermon is over, the songs are sung, the lilies are taken, the families depart, and the “Easter chairs” are stored for next year, there is one underlying truth remaining: the tomb is empty.

For all the other things we pile on this day, the profound simplicity is this:  Our loved ones who have died in Christ, with Him as Savior and Lord of their lives, are alive…more alive than they have ever been.  It can be the same for us.